Comments on: The Financial Perks of Being In An Equal Relationship

By: Revanche @ A Gai Shan Life

Revanche @ A Gai Shan Life — Sat, 14 Jul 2018 05:49:17 +0000

I did so much work creating a solid financial foundation before we were married that when we did eventually marry, and a few years later, combine finances so I could rule uncontested over our financial empire-fledging, it was both like icing on the cake and like refueling the jet and breaking the sound barrier. We took a long time to get here since we came from totally different backgrounds and mentalities – we had to learn from each other and start working in the same book before even finding the same page, but all those years were worth it in forming a true partnership. Whether you combine or keep separate finances doesn’t matter nearly so much as if you have a real partner rather than a transactional relationship with that person you might share a bed with.
And that goes quadruple for having a kid together because OMG that’s so much work.

By: Matt Spillar

Matt Spillar — Wed, 11 Jul 2018 04:42:48 +0000

Great points Alyssa, it seems like we hear a lot about "how can I get my partner on the same page as me financially" which is obviously super important, but very rarely do I read posts acknowledging how big of a role a partner can play in building a stable financial future together.

By: Chonce

Chonce — Tue, 10 Jul 2018 19:39:46 +0000

I totally agree with living on one income even when you bring in two. That's what my husband and I try to do. Granted, buying a house is easier when you have a spouse that has a job vs. self-employed, but we still bought a house well below what the bank offered. If anything were to happen to him or me, I want to know that we're still okay!

By: Jaymee

Jaymee — Tue, 10 Jul 2018 16:38:31 +0000

I’m single now and so far the biggest benefits I’m enjoying are being able to spend my money the way I want without having to explain why to the other person (recently bought an investment property and didn’t have to consult such a big purchase with a SO and I’ve gone on a few trips around the world at the drop of a hat). I’ve been able to take big risks with my money without fearing putting my SO in a precarious position because if I eff up, I only have to worry about putting shelter over my head and food in my belly. When I was in my previous relationship though, it wasn’t at all equal and we broke up because we were not on the same page. I was carrying him financially and let me tell you, I lost respect for him very quickly. Anyways, it couldn’t have lasted so in the end, I wasted a lot of time and money. But I learned my lesson and he’s out of my life for good. So only direction is up. :)